Category Archives: Random Thoughts

The First Three days

It’s now been three days officially since I am unemployed. Remember, in the last post I had written about my anxiety and nervousness about this break? But surprisingly it’s not as bad as I feared it would be … I am actually enjoying not having a schedule, not running here and there trying to complete an impossible amount of work in the limited time… and not being busy busy busy the whole time with almost no time to just breathe…

It s true that I take long vacations once a year and plan some weekend getaways in between but somehow again I get into the obsessive mode of planning. I meticulously plan my every vacation with plans and backup plans. I have schedules and list of things to do even when I am on a vacation. Since H is also into planning and all he didn’t seem to mind. But now that I am sitting back at home with no definite plan I wonder if I am a control freak without realizing it? I definitely should learn to let go. I have done a part of it letting go of the work to take a break. So I guess I am in the learning mode now. I have left the safety & comfort of the harbor and ventured out in the open sea looking for an adventure.

Well now let me tell you about what I have been up to for the last 2-3 days. I have decided to focus on my health and lose a little weight and get fit. So I made list with options for exercise ie Gym, zumba, aerobics, power yoga, kick boxing, dancing. I am in the process of visiting all the places in my vicinity which have these classes. I plan to take trial classes and then decide which two of the options I will take. I don’t think with my almost non flexible body which is so not used to exercise more than one class a day is going to be feasible.

So far I have visited 4 gyms. Liked none of them much. I basically look for space in a gym and the try to check whether the trainers are good. Somehow cramped up gyms make me claustrophobic and I can’t imagine me working out while trying to take care as to not bump into somebody. But most of the gyms in my vicinity are in converted 2 or 3 BHK flats space is a big problem. The equipments are good, the trainers seem ok but I just can’t exercise there. Then there is this gym which I had joined a year back and didn’t continue. It has adequate space but trainers are super pushy. I don’t want to go there as well so I think as of now the option of gym is out.

I took two trial sessions of power yoga. My aching body is a proof of how strenuous it is(It actually looked simpler on you tube).Well I really like both the classes and I am confused. One class is just power yoga where they teach you different variations of the ‘surya namaskar’ and improve your posture. Its instructor is a middle aged lady , super fit and looks like she would fold and mold me into a perfect shape if I just put myself in her hands. But that class looks like real work with almost zero fun. Also I didn’t like the studio space.

The second class is a power yoga + aerobics + zumba class. Its super fun with nice music and airy studio with mirrors and big windows. I really enjoyed it a lot but the instructor is a little dumb. She was talking about nerves carrying blood. Even someone like me who is not so good at biology knows that is not true. But she goes on and on about things like that.

So to sum it up its Fun Class + Dumb Instructor versus Serious Class + Great Instructor. I am confused.

Oye !!! That reminds me I have to go … I have a kick boxing trial class to attend… Now let’s see how that works out…


1 Comment

Posted by on March 13, 2014 in Random Thoughts


Tags: , , , , , , , , , ,

I am Thankful

Thanksgiving was just around the corner and all my friends in US were talking about it.It suddenly struck me what a wonderful idea thanks giving is.In our busy everyday life we forget to take a step back and actually feel thankful and blessed for all the wonderful things and people we have in our lives.Such a day gives us that pause or break to stop ,think and actually appreciate our own lives.
As I count my blessings this thanksgiving I am thankful to :
I am thankful for God for showering me and my family with his love and blessing
For all the good things and bad things.As good things make me better and the bad things make me stronger.The lessons he teaches, he happy surprises he plans.
My Parents
I am thankful to my wonderful parents who love me, guide me and be there for me (though I can be thoroughly irritating at times).I am thankful for their unconditional love & support which has made me the person I am today.I feel blessed to be the daughter of my parents.
My Husband H,
I am thankful to my darling husband for giving me all the love I ever wished for.For being faithful and committed to me.For accepting and loving me for the person I am and making me feel special always.
My late Dog Bryan
I am thankful to Bryan for being the companion I never had before.For never letting me feel lonely.For welcoming me home every single day and making me feel wanted and loved.For being my brother and my best friend.
My Friends,
I am thankful to all my friends both new and old.I am thankful for all the fun times we had together , the laughter and craziness they bought in my life.I am thankful for all the wonderful memories I have shared with my friends.
My Health
I crib and cry most of the times about how fat I have become.But today I realise how thankful I am to have a healthy body.i am thankful I have no serious disease or disorder.I live a rather good life.I am very thankful for that.
I am thankful for being the person I am.I am thankful for being a good person.I do have my imperfections but all in all I am good ,kind,loving, sensible person.I am thankful for that
Leave a comment

Posted by on November 25, 2012 in Random Thoughts



3 Things Marriage Taught Me

Being the  only child of my parents ,sharing was almost an unknown idea to me.My husband is also the only child of his parents.So when we got married it was like a union of two people with no experience of sharing planning to share their whole lives with each other.A very difficult task.The friction could arise out of the smallest issues like sharing the wardrobe space,to using the other person’s things.It resulted in arguments and sometimes fights.But then as time passed we realised that we actually like sharing things with each other.( I like his perfume and he likes using my soft fluffy towel ) .Once the realisation came that he will use my things carefully and I should not get so possessive about materialistic things it became quite easy.I guess time teaches you things and one needs to sometimes let go.

Too many expectations spoil the relationship
When I got married I was naive ( stupid) enough to think that after marrying my Mr Right my life would be like a fairy tale with us living happily ever after.So expectations were riding high.Big mistake.Every birthday,anniversary or any special day I used to keep my expectation so high that anything that was done for me failed to really impress me.(Though looking back I now realise H really did try his best) I wanted everything to be perfect. Candle light dinners, long romantic drives ,movies on week ends ,stuff like that.But after long working hours on weekdays who has time and energy left for all that?  So none of these things happened.And I was dissapointed. I cribbed and complained to my best friend. And she said ‘ Do you think you do everything perfectly all the time?’ and that struck me. I realised that even I am not perfect.I can’t cook.I am pathetic at household chores ( now improving though) but still when it comes to expecting I expect a lot without actually looking at the fact that I am also not able to live upto all his expectations all the time.I was suddenly ashamed of myself. After that I consciously  started appreciating the things he did for me and kept a check on my critisism and things improved. Since I didn’t expect much anything nice that he did used to come as a pleasant surprise. I still fall and fumble on the way and sometimes expect a little too much but I try and keep these occasions to the minimum.I have learnt my lesson the hard way and hope to remember it forever.

Communication is the key
H is one person who understands my likes and dislikes better than anyone.Most of the time he can understand what’s going on with me just by looking at my face.( I love that about him) .But then nobody is a perfect mind reader. I used to get dissapointed when he didn’t get my hints, when he couldn’t understand what exactly I meant when I said something and other such things. But as time passed I realised the key to a healthy and growing relationship  is communication.If I tell him clearly and nicely what I want or need most of the times he understands and does things accordingly and the same is with me.When we talk about our everyday experiences we learn and grow together and that enables us to be on a same wavelength.If there is no communication then one goes on jumping to conclusions without even checking the facts. That results in serious disconnect.Communication is part giving part receiving.Some people are good talkers; some are good listeners but both partners have to do both for good and effective communication.


Posted by on May 2, 2012 in Random Thoughts



My Day Off

The last week and half has been extremely stress full as I had ranted about in my earlier post.Yesterday after office I decided enough is enough. I need time for myself.Time to relax ,enjoy and indulge.Coming home, I announced to my husband from now on I am on a mini break for one and half day.I am not going to do any of the usual household chores and do things my way only.He saw my face and realised I meant business and if he argued it would have resulted into a long bitter fight so he agreed.(Only after I promised to take his share of chores for two days after my mini break was over) And right then and there my break started.Yippeee

So right after dinner I went out for a long walk ,not worrying about dishes to be done(Haven’t been able to do that for the longest time). The whole day I am sitting in this cramped up office with artificial light and ventilation( I am thankful for the Ac in hot Mumbai summer) that I don’t get any fresh natural air at all. And being from a small town where you can still see stars in the sky at night unlike Mumbai ,I actually crave for such small pleasures.I went to the Jogger’s park nearby and walked on the circular track over and over again with so many unknown people.It’s like you are with a bunch of people ( so you are not alone) b ut still have your own space ( as you have no  obligation to listen or talk or generally make a conversation).I find this kind of walks a perfect time to sort your own mental issues.I actually find walks thereupatic.So after a nice hour long walk,I returned home physically exhausted but at peace.

When I woke up in the morning today (the usual time as my body did’nt know it was on break) I felt fresh,alive and excited; something that was not happening for a very long time.I called up my boss and told him I am taking a day off because I am sick.( Sick of him and the work I didn’t add) and suddenly I was free.Free for a day.Excitement.Loads of it.There were so many things I wanted to do. I didn’t know where to start.I got up to get pen and paper to make a list of things I wanted to do but then stopped midway as realised I don’t want to be all organised and disciplined (at least today) .I want to be impulsive and fun.

I started my fun day by going back to sleep with no alarms set to wake me up again.But then I guess my body is not used to such kind of indulgence and I woke up only an hour after I had gone off to sleep.Sheesh!!!!So sleeping during the day was crossed of my mental to do list(Yes!!!I made a mental list.Could’nt help it).Got up and read the newspaper leisurely for more than an hour.Lots of newspapers  actually.(Usually I hurriedly go through the newspaper’s headlines while having my morning cup of tea and that’s the only dose of daily news I get.)Suddenly I felt all good and knowledgable as crazy as that sounds

Hmmm still more than half a day left of fun time.I couldn’t get out of the house as I live pretty close to my work place and I dreaded the possibility of meeting someone from work when I had actually called in sick.So I had to enjoy my day at home only.Not so disappointing actually as it is extremely hot outside

So after a nice long bath,I settled in front of the Tv and watched two movies back to back munching on snacks the whole time.I  watched Adam Sandler’s ‘Anger Management’ and the horror flick ‘1408’.Anger Management was a typical Adam Sandler movie.Something that makes you laugh while you watch it but then forget about it very soon.Its not the kind of movie that makes you think or moves you in any way.Its a fun movie.Exactly what I needed.’1408′  was a scary movie that didn’t scare me at all.Maybe because I was watching it on a bright sunny afternoon with traffic noise for background.I continued watching it till the end only because I wanted to find out if the guy dies in the end or not.

The rest of my day (till now) was spent chatting with old friends,painting my nails bright and orange (that makes me happy),organizing some old photographs,playing computer games,re arranging my wardrobe etc.

Overall the day is well spent and I feel all relaxed,un-winded and fresh. And now I am waiting to welcome my Husband ,when he comes back from work with a big  bright smile on my face.


Posted by on April 18, 2012 in Random Thoughts


Tags: ,

My Rants

Feeling low.No nothing is wrong but everything seems to be.Work has even extremely stress full ,the whole last week for both me and the husband.With the increment time hopefully around the corner the boss makes us work our butts off.Extra work results in  longer working hours for both at the same time.That means both of us reach home bone tired and with enough irritation to make the tiniest arguments blow up into potentially explosive situations.Household chores which used to shared and looked at as ways of spending time together were pushed off as the other person’s responsibility. Ughhhhh!!

To add up to all this irritation is the IPL.Ok you must have guessed right now that I do not like cricket. I can tolerate it up to a certain level but now in my already pissed off mood ,my husband being glued to it while leaving me to do all the household chores doesn’t help.Watching the IPL quietly is his way of unwinding after a long and hard day at work but it surely works up my irritation up to the danger levels.I really can’t understand why our country has to play so much cricket?Don’t the cricketers need to relax ? Don’t the viewers get tired of watching?Apparently not because some people like my husband and dad can watch cricket 24/7 and still enjoy it.So we have this fights over the remote because I want to watch anything except cricket and for him it’s nothing but cricket.But sometime in the last few days I have given up my fight for the remote and now have some peace.

I realised I had wasted my energy fighting over the stupidest thing.The IPL keeps him so busy and in a happy mood that I can do my own thing without any interference at all.So now I chat up with old buddies.Share gossip with my girlfriends.Read a book peacefully without having to get up now and then to fetch something for the husband (Finally and thankfully).So with this new and happy realisation I have found out my own ways to unwind without biting off my husband’s head.


Posted by on April 18, 2012 in Random Thoughts


Tags: ,

Different Everyday

Everyday is new.Everyday I discover something new about me or the people around me.I have a fixed routine.I do almost the same things everyday ; but there is so much difference between yesterday,today and tomorrow.

Some discoveries amaze me like just yesterday I found out that my hair can amazingly pretty if brushed in a certain way ( I am a girl whose most days are bad hair days).Some time finding something about yourself is quite disappointing like the other day I realised that I do get scared when a stray dog growls at me( I used to believe that dogs no matter how big or small do not scare me)..but overall its fun discovering things.Its like you are on the journey that you do frequently but an unexpected surprise might come up on the next turn

I observe people around me.Sometimes I spend hours with them for days in a row and yet something they say or do comes up as a surprise.A girl who seemed to be afraid of everything stands up to an unreasonable boss with courage when nobody in the team dares.A boy who makes jokes and is the office clown can have a really sad story back at home.A really annoying boss can turn out to be a real softie when it comes to some things.
I started thinking about all this when the cleaning maid who comes to our office told me about herself.I have known her for about a year now. I usually reach office earlier than rest of my colleagues so it’s mostly her and me in the office at the start of the work day.And being the talkative person I am,I chat with her almost everyday.
One day I asked her if her parents were looking for a husband for her. She looked at me and said that she was married off at the age of fifteen to a man who was about 20 years elder to her in her village back at U.P.She didn’t know it was illegal or wrong at that time.The husband abused her and made her life miserable.Parents washed off their hands.So she stayed with him for two or three years then one day she read somewhere that getting married before 18 was a crime and that her husband could be lawfully punished for that.So she lodged a complaint.Fought a case against her husband and her parents; won it and then ran away to Mumbai to escape the wrath of her villagers.She now works as a maid to support herself. She hasn’t given up on love yet and hopes to find the right guy who would treat her like a queen.

I  had no words.Here was a girl I thought I knew and she had such a amazing story which I had no clue about.It came as a surprise.A nice one and I felt proud to know of such a brave girl and her optimistic approach towards life touched me.

That’s when I thought nothing is as it seems.No tomorrow can be predicted accurately .We can just plan,hope,wish or pray for things but then there is a higher power in action who makes everyday different for every person so that he/she can learn ,grow and live to be a better person.


Posted by on April 7, 2012 in Random Thoughts


Tags: ,

Random Observations

  • Common sense is not so common.
  • The waiting period for rickshaw is directly proportional to weight of shopping bags in your hands.
  • Any kind of food that tastes delicious and looks amazing is not healthy for you.
  • Passport /Driving license photos are the worst pictures of you ever taken.
  • Bad decisions make good stories.
  • It s not the clothes that make you look fat …Its all you…
  • Fat people snore more than thin people…
  • People who snore usually fall asleep first.
  • The last few minutes of exams is the time when you remember most of the answers and there is hardly any time left to write.
  • Fact is stranger and more complex than fiction.
  • Growing older is compulsory….Growing up is optional….
  • It is generally very difficult to distinguish boredom and hunger.
  • Obituaries would be a lot more interesting if they told you how the person died.
  • Bitching & Gossip is one of the major stress busters for women of all ages.
  • People would be so much slimmer and healthier if they had to actually catch their own chicken before they cook and eat it.
  • The toughest part of dieting is not watching what you eat but watching what your friends eat.
1 Comment

Posted by on April 4, 2012 in Lists, Random Thoughts


Tags: ,