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Tuesday Quote 22

 
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Posted by on January 29, 2013 in Quotes

 

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4 Things I Learnt from my Dog

 
Love  Unconditionally
 
Dogs are the most friendly,loving ,loyal creatures in the entire world.They heal us with their power of unconditional love.Their soulful eyes empathize when we are sad, the cheerful playfulness lifts our spirit ,their loyalty gives us security and comfort that no human can.No matter how much you mess up your life, how much wrong you do, regardless how you look, your social standing your dog will always love you.
 
My Bryan made me feel loved and wanted the way no other human could. He could easily out do any human I know in his ability to forgive and forget. It’s something one can learn from dogs.They have this infinite capacity to love.
 
Welcome Someone Happily
 
No one can say ‘Welcome back home ‘ the way my Bryan did. No matter what a horrible day I had ; when I came back home his happy barks and vigorous wagging of tail instantly put a smile on my face.When the door bell used to ring he ran to the front door whenever he was.He might be sleeping but that didn’t stop him from rushing to welcome someone home as I’d he hasn’t seen that person for a million years.I actually used to love coming back home to him.His happy welcome made me feel wanted like nothing else could.He made sure that I knew that he was waiting for me and he is glad that I am back.
 
I try to do the same ( No, not the wagging and barking) to welcome people home.I try my best to smile and welcome people home no matter how tired I am.Greeting people at the door and welcoming them home is one of those things I do naturally.H often says that he looks forward to coming home after a stressful day because he knows he will be welcomed home with a smile and a big hug. I love to be welcomed home myself. I somehow dont like opening the door myself though I might have the keys.Now that Bryan is no more I don’t get that waggy welcomes but H makes an effort to get up ,open the door and greet me whenever I ring the door bell and I reward him with a dazzling smile .
 
Listen
 
Don’t you get this amazing feeling when you talk to your dog and he cocks his head and listens earnestly? I did and I loved having Bryan to listen to what I had to say. I knew he didn’t understand the words I said but he knew the feelings behind those words and that was enough. He licked me when he saw my tears , snuggled up when he felt I was upset , didn’t  leave my side when I was scared.Sometimes you don’t need advice or opinions.All you want is someone to be there to hold your hand and listen to you.Bryan taught me to be a good listener and how sometimes just listening can give someone a lot of relief.
Lot of people tell me things that they otherwise wouldn’t tell anybody and they say its because I am a good listener.This has come to me naturally because of all those years when I felt good after talking to Bryan.He just sat there not judging,not advising not giving any opinions …just being there to make me feel that I am not alone. I realized what a wonderful thing it is to be able to it for somebody.
 
Protect your loved ones
 
I remember once my tiny little dog went against a pack of vicious street dogs just to protect me. He got bitten and hurt but he put himself in danger without a second thought without even thinking of the consequences.I had to actually rescue him from the dogs but that doesn’t lessen his bravery and it makes me immensely proud. He didn’t think of his size or the risks.He just put himself in the harms way so as to protect me. And that’s how it should be. 
I am fiercely protective about my loved ones.I guess it’s one of those things I have learnt from Bryan.Sometimes H scolds me saying that I am over protective but that’s how I am .When I sense there is any threat to my loved ones there is no logic or reason that stops me from doing whatever I can to protect them.
 
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Posted by on January 25, 2013 in My take

 

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Tuesday Quote 21

 
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Posted by on January 22, 2013 in Quotes

 

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Bright Lily

I saw this bright yellow lily at the florist early this morning…Could’nt  resist clicking a snap…

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Posted by on January 20, 2013 in Miscellaneous

 

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Annoying Ladies at the Gym

I like going to the gym but I am seriously annoyed with the ladies there. I am a beginner and I am just about getting used to the whole exercise thing. I am taking it slow and steady just so that I don’t get injured. But who is going to understand that? 

 
There is this group of ladies who have been going to the gym for a long time now ( They are still all fat … I know I am being bitchy but what the hell) and they do almost all exercises together. Like when they have to run on the treadmill they will all get on the treadmills next to each other. The same is the case with cycles. I didn’t have a problem with that. I tried to stay out of their way and be polite whenever they spoke to me but no they couldn’t somehow tolerate that. I am not a person who can chat while exercising. Firstly because I don’t have enough stamina to both talk and work out. It’s either one of the two. And secondly their content whining and bitching about everyone else in the gym irritated me. 
 
So once they figured out that I am not going to join their group they probably decided that they need to irritate me. So now when I am doing all the sit-ups or crunches which I can barely manage they just stand around on the pretence on drinking water or something commenting on how young yet fat I am…One lady said to the other ‘ Girls these days just eat and sit in front of computers no wonder they just go fat ‘ and this comment came who they were looking pointedly at me struggling to do the crunches…I was like I can hear you….
 
These kind of comments continued everyday… Till one day one lady had the audacity to come and tell me that I am not going to lose weight like that as I am not able to keep up with anything…I still tried being calm and explaining to her that I plan to get fit and losing weight comes secondary… To which she laughed and walked away…
 
Then finally the last straw was when one lady actually tried to increase the speed of my treadmill because she thought I should be running as walking is not quite helpful…I literally yelled at her to mind her own business…I even went out and complained to the instructor. I could have got seriously injured …Now I am suddenly a rude one and sort of an outsider amongst the other girls…But I don’t care… I took a stand for my right and I am proud of it…
 
I didn’t tell H much about what was going on in the girl’s section of the gym because I didn’t want to unessasarily stress him out as he is super happy with his gym buddies…
 
Girls like this I can handle on my own … 
 
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Posted by on January 17, 2013 in Miscellaneous

 

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Tuesday Quote 20

 
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Posted by on January 15, 2013 in Quotes

 

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Safety – A Distant Dream

I am scared of my safety on streets and not ashamed to accept it.The brutal gang rape of a 23 year old girl in Delhi reinforces my fear.What was her fault ?That she got on in the wrong bus? One wrong decision and her life gets all messed up.A normal girl’s life filled with  with dreams and aspirations is torn apart just  because she took a wrong bus with such vile animals in it?That makes no sense.It makes no bloody sense.It makes me numb, angry,disgusted,shocked and scared.

 
I have been procrastinating about writing this post because somehow I wasn’t able to face it. It’s scary to read about all the torture the poor girl had to go through… A girl just like you and me …I just was not able to put my thoughts into words because I wanted to somehow lock them into a box and not face it… I am angry but I am scared too… 
 
After I read about this case I started thinking that probably beneath the thin veneer of civilisation lives a brutal animal willing to attack given a chance … You never know under whose disguise lies a demon… There are so many people whom you are surrounded with but never give a second glance and think what if there is something amiss…The watchman of your building who knows when you come and go , the delivery boys , the office boys … Anyone can have such ulterior motives… One just doesn’t know … I went into a phase where I was almost paranoid … I kept checking and rechecking who is walking behind me on roads , avoided lonely roads , locked the doors securely … I had somehow lost the trust and sense of security … 
 
But after few days this stress started taking a toll on my everyday life … I started losing out the person I am to this fear… I realised I need to get a grip on myself …Girls in office were talking about carrying pepper sprays and pocket knives but I thought in the big jhola like bags that I carry finding my cell phone is a task how can I  ever find a pepper spay specially when I am scared ?
 
So what can one  do? Knowing the kind of person I am I have made a list of things that I can do even when I am scared … Like screaming … I can scream pretty loudly if I am in trouble … That should catch a passer bye ‘s attention …Being aware of your surroundings … For example while walking on road specially a lonely road keep your eyes and ears open for the any strange seemingly dangerous signals … Trust your instincts … Letting someone know where you are going and with whomif you are going somewhere late night ( I know for teenagers it’s very annoying … I had endless fights with my parents over it but now I realise how essential it was) so that in case something goes wrong they can easily reach you or at least call the person you are with …Learn some basic self defence techniques… You can ask your elder brothers or male cousins to teach you how to hit…I had read somewhere that even a child can break someone’s knee if he hits on the right spot…Also it’s very importent to project yourself as someone that can protest , make noise or cause harm because that itself can act as a deterrent to some perverts…Not all these tricks work for everybody every time but you can always think about what you can do and make a mental list  so that in case of trouble it’s kind of a reflex action…
 
One cannot live in fear.. We can write, blog and make noise so that the government takes some action for our safety but till then there is no point in just waiting in fear…We need to take steps to help ourselves because something like this can happen to anyone of us…
 
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Posted by on January 14, 2013 in Miscellaneous

 

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